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A Visit to Pulse, March 2017

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I woke up June 12, 2016 and was scared. After a quick scan through my social media, I found out about the shooting at the Pulse nightclub in Orlando.  The first thing that came to mind was a good friend and if he had been present that night. I knew he went out to some of the clubs in town and I hadn’t heard him mention it directly, but it was a possibility.

Thankfully, I sent a message and heard back pretty quickly- he was ok, but 49 fellow LGBTQ+ community members and supporters were not ok. This hit me hard.  The terrorist attack in Chattanooga in 2015 happened (one of the locations) 3 miles or less from my front door, the attacker lived in my in law’s neighborhood, but Pulse hurt so so so much more. I was close with someone who could have very easily been there- I found out later he only went Wednesdays. I am so thankful for this.

This month, I finally made my pilgrimage. I planned a visit to my friend and get shown the lay of the Orlando land- honestly I knew way too much about new building permits and roads that I’d never seen, so it was time to finally make it happen. On the top of my list was visiting Pulse and paying my respects to all of those taken too soon.

The trip finally came around and Orlando won my heart. Head over heels won my heart. Part of that is the community that I felt. On a Friday night, we planned to visit Pulse. As we drove through downtown, we went past the hospital and my friend pointed out the ER that people were taken to. My stomach was in knots. We drove a few more blocks to an area I’d seen on the news, that is until I couldn’t handle it anymore and had to turn the tv off the year before. We parked the car and as we walked towards the club’s parking lot, I told him “I might need a hug in about three minutes”.  He simply responded that we both would.

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As we walked up to the fenced in building, I was surprised that I didn’t cry. There was no one else around at that point but there were candles burning, freshly lit. People had left many mementos of remembrance and sorrow and love and celebration. All along the fence were pieces of art that had been created specifically for this place. Visitors had written all along these and left messages of hope.

One of the things that sticks out so much to me is the speech that Lin-Manuel Miranda gave at the Tony Awards in 2015, which happened to occur on the same evening as the early morning attack. Lin gave an eloquent speech with the memorable sentiment of “Love is Love is Love is Love is Love”. I remember watching this speech as he gave it live on tv, tears streaming down my face.

On the top of one of the tarps, my friend pointed out where it had been written in large letters: “Love is Love is Love”.

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I had painted a pride flag and carried it 500+ miles to find where I it felt it belonged. I placed it on top of a podium that had pictures of the fallen on the base and their names listed on the top. It was hard to read but their faces did enough talking.  My friend came over and pointed out where the door in was and where the bathrooms where that people hid out in. I knew I was really there but I didn’t feel like I was really there, just on the other side of that fence.

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My friend hadn’t been even past the club since before the attack. I felt bad dragging him out there, but in hindsight, I am so glad that he was who I went to this place with. We hugged and held hands. I tried to somehow squeeze some sort of relief to him through hugs, but I’m not sure how well it worked. I do know that I was a lucky person to be able to support of a friend I care so deeply about in a moment that was harder than I will even ever know.

As we walked around, I took a few photos of the things people had left to honor those beautiful people that we lost. I couldn’t bring myself to take a photo of the club’s sign, though. I had seen it so many times on TV and photos and refused to take yet another image of it. I felt like if I took a photo, I was simply a tourist and seeing it simply because I was in Orlando. That would have bothered me more than anything else.

After about 20 minutes, a handful of people showed up (a Friday around 10 pm, mind you) and we decided it was time to move along. I made sure to tell my friend multiple times thank you for taking me to this place and for helping me go through the emotions I had, even from so far away.

It took some time to reflect on our visit, but I realized the next night, sitting by myself, looking at a lake at a Disney World hotel, what it left me with. Seeing the candles lit, people coming by to pay their respects and all of the words of encouragement and hope that had been left, it was about LOVE. Love and Hope.

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We live in a world where bad things happen and people ban together sometimes afterwards. The feeling and everything I saw in Orlando is one of unity. One of the things my friend told me that night was how much the city totally came together when this terrifying act occurred. There were insanely huge crowds at the city wide memorial at the Dr. Phillips Performing Arts Center to celebrate these lives last June. I saw the photos. I didn’t start to get the monstrosity of the size of things until I was riding through the area. I will never ever know the full monstrosity of these events, but I look forward to joining the Orlando community, being an ally, showing loving and doing whatever I can to make it a better place. I have felt if from afar, I’ve seen it felt by someone who is part of it and I hope to never forget what happened but remember and celebrate these lives and all of those they touched.  

 

Hurricane Matthew from TN

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So I’ve been a busy lady & it’s after 10 pm, aka after when I normally go to bed, but I’ve got to get these thoughts out…Hurricane Matthew has gotten me feeling super nervous.

Some of you might know that I’m a Tennessee resident & that’s where my sweet hubs & I live. I’ve never lived in Florida, but the idea of a huge storm down there is really getting to me. This is all (pretty much) due to twitter. I count myself as part of the Disney Twittersphere & have quite a few acquaintances & friends who are part of that community who actually live in central Florida.

So, cut to me being glued to the Weather Channel. I’ve been watching last night & tonight as well, crossing my fingers that atleast Orlando and the surrounding areas are spared & I don’t have to see my friends hurt or losing their homes or things with the massive waters.

It always trips me out to see places we have been or that we have atleast driven through going through a crazy event, but it’s started & everytime I hear Orlando, St. Augustine & a few more cities, it makes me just hope for the best & that everyone can stay safe.

Thanks for letting me get this out- I kinda needed it out of my head.

x0x0

Jenny

 

 

Times Flies..then you Plan the Future

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We like this place.

It’s official- time is flying by. Just a few weeks ago I wrote on here & mentioned it was the 7 month wedding anniversary for Losson & I. Then the other day we got a letter about renewing our lease- something that has to be confirmed by February 12. That means it’s close to a year that I’ve lived in this apartment (my first real life, full on adult apartment) & that’s just nuts.

This has gotten me thinking- in a little over a year, Losson will be done with school & have a sweet degree to code & bill to his heart’s content in a medical setting. Once he’s done, we’re planning on making a move.

As we thought about places we could move, we considered a few places- one being Japan. Well, we aren’t going to go that far away yet. We also considered Colorado (for a minute-Losson…) & the Orlando area.

So we talked about it & it looks like May 2017 will bring a move to…

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Now we start researching, planning, plotting & figuring out what we’re going to do & how exactly we’re going to do it.

Here’s to planning the future!

xoxo

Jenny

EDIT Sept. 2016: We aren’t moving just yet.And we aren’t sure where we’ll be headed..but we’re here for now in Tennessee…